Author Cathy M. Rubin was kind enough to take the time to answer a few questions about her (co-authored with Gabriella Rose Rubin) gorgeous, lavishly illustrated tribute to Alice Liddell, The Real Alice in Wonderland: A Role Model for the Ages.
Creating much more than a coffee table book, the authors explore the real life and Victorian world in which their relative Alice Liddell lived her extraordinary life.
Thanks to Cathy M. Rubin for her time and for her comprehensive responses about both the book and the fascinating life of Alice Liddell.
What do American Independence Day and Alice In Wonderland have in common?
Cathy M. Rubin: American Independence Day and Alice in Wonderland share the same birthday i.e. July 4. Friday July 4, 1862 is credited with the first time Lewis Carroll told Alice Liddell and her sisters the story of Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland. It was shortly after the first telling of Carroll’s story that Alice began to urge the author to write it down for her.
What was the background to writing this book The Real Alice in Wonderland: A Role Model for the Ages?
Cathy M. Rubin: In 2007, my daughter’s school selected Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland for Book Day. My daughter Gabriella remembered we had a connection to the Liddell family. Alice Liddell inspired Charles Dodgson (aka Lewis Carroll) to write the original story. At this point I knew very little about Alice Liddell’s story other than what my grandmother and my great aunt Phil Liddell had told me about her when I was a child. Gabriella bugged me to help her research the story. You could say we jumped down the rabbit hole together.
It took us several months to research the content for our Book Day workshop which we called The Real Alice In Wonderland. After we presented the workshop to Gabriella’s school and other groups we were encouraged by educators, friends and family to turn our story into a film or book. The book as you can see came first!
Many people are unaware that Lewis Carroll wrote about a real Alice. What can you tell us about Alice Liddell as a real person?
Cathy M. Rubin: Alice Liddell was born into a privileged, academic family on May 4, 1852. She was the fourth child of Henry and Lorina Liddell. Her father, one of the most prominent educators of his day, was the Dean of Christ Church College, Oxford University. Alice was home schooled by some of Oxford University’s finest tutors. She was a bright child with significant artistic talents. Alice was also known to be free-spirited (largely due to her never-ending curiousity about everything).
She grew up to become a beautiful and cultured young woman. Her beauty inspired many distinguished photographers and artists such as Charles Dodgson, Julia Margaret Cameron and Sir William Blake Richmond. She also inspired the devotion of many suitors including Prince Leopold, Queen Victoria’s youngest son. In 1880, she married a wealthy landowner, Reginald Hargreaves, with whom she had three sons.
It seems like Alice was even more intriguing in life, than she was in the famous novels, if that is possible. What is the legacy of the real Alice beyond what Lewis Carroll wrote?
Cathy M. Rubin: We know from the fan mail our book has been receiving that people believe Alice Liddell’s real life was even more fascinating than the fictional character she inspired. It is a rich story of a very creative, curious and magnetic young girl who grew up to become a cultural icon and one of the most celebrated women of the last 100 years. It is a story of love, tragedy, duty, courage and loyalty to family and country. Her story has particularly touched people because throughout it all, Alice (a woman living in very conservative age of Victorian England) showed tremendous courage and determination to overcome the many obstacles she faced – not unlike the fictional Alice in Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland – in real life.
In many ways, Alice Liddell was ahead of her time as she broke down barriers for women. What were a few of her groundbreaking achievements?
Cathy M. Rubin: Alice was President of the Emery Down Women’s Institute. The WI worked tirelessly to break down the social barriers between the rich and the poor in local communities. Once women over 30 were allowed to vote, the WI leadership focused on urging women to acquire new skills and to actively engage in issues that mattered to them and to their communities.
Later in her life, as Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland the book became an international best seller, people discovered there was a real Alice. It didn’t take long for the real Alice to become a celebrity too. Alice used this platform to give back to her community. She became a spokesperson in England and the United States for a number of children’s charities at a time when women were rarely seen up front in the spotlight. We cover Alice’s many achievements as a role model in our book.
Cathy Rubin and Gabriella Rubin (both in photo left)
What areas of the Alice books did Lewis Carroll draw from that were real places and events in Alice's life and upper class world?
Cathy M. Rubin: Lewis Carroll was inspired by many of the real places, events and people in Alice’s life when he wrote Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland. Here are some examples: Alice’s sisters, Lorina and Edith, are believed to have inspired the Lory and the Eaglet in the Pool of Tears. Lewis Carroll often took the real Alice to see the Dodo bird at the Natural History Museum in Oxford. The Dodo bird appears in Alice in Wonderland. Lewis Carroll’s own adopted character was the Dodo. Alice’s father, Dean Henry Liddell, is believed to have inspired the White Rabbit. He was often running late for his appointments and so had to make quick escapes out of a secret door in the Dining Hall at Christ Church College. Alice’s governess, Ms. Prickett, is believed to have inspired the Queen of Hearts.
There are two small gardens behind Alice’s home in Oxford. It was here that Lewis Carroll taught Alice and her sisters to play Castle Croquet, a game that appears in Alice in Wonderland. There is also a tree that still stands today in the garden which is believed to have inspired the real Cheshire Cat tree. The old sheep shop (Alice through the Looking Glass) in Oxford was based on a store located in Oxford where Carroll took Alice and her sisters to buy sweets. The woman who ran the store sounded like a sheep. The store still exists today and it is called Alice’s Shop.T
The breakup between Alice's family and Lewis Carroll is well known as an event, but the details are often lacking. What caused these two remarkable people to drift apart?
Cathy M. Rubin: A break-up occurred between Dodgson and Alice’s mother Lorina around the time Dodgson presented Alice with her special gift, i.e. his handcrafted work Alice’s Adventures Underground. Lorina stopped all outings between Dodgson and Alice. Alice was at an age when Victorian parents started looking for suitable husbands for their daughters. While there are many theories as to why the break up occurred, we believe that Carroll’s beautiful gift triggered concerns for Lorina. Dodgson was a poor, undistinguished professor whom Lorina would never have considered eligible. Although Alice’s mother caused the break up when Alice was a young teen, Carroll’s book connected him to Alice for the rest of their respective lives.
Alice married and had children, but her story was tinged with sadness. What happened with her sons and her family?
Cathy M. Rubin: All three of Alice’s sons served their country in World War 1. Alice and her husband Reginald Hargreaves tragically lost two of their three sons in this brutal war. Reginald never recovered from the deaths of his children. Alice, while grieving herself, supported him through a long slow decline in his health to his eventual death. This was a tough time in Alice’s life, a time during which she illustrates incredible courage.
Alice Liddell - The real Alice in Wonderland (photo left)
The many drawings and illustrations in the book are wonderful as well. How were these photographs selected? What aspects of Alice's life were they portraying?
Cathy M. Rubin: We spent years collecting the visual materials for our book. Ultimately we couldn’t use all the materials we had and cuts had to be made during the editorial process. Despite the treasures left out, we are happy to say that there are approximately 500 photographs, artifacts and illustrations in our book. We believe that collectively they portray Alice Liddell’s entire life in a very compelling way.
Many images come from Alice’s personal effects (auctioned in 2001) which at one time were considered to be the largest Alice In Wonderland collection in the world. Others come from museums and libraries all around the world. Some of the artworks were created by world famous artists during Alice’s lifetime while others were created during the last few years. Our vision for our book was a collector’s item.
We wanted readers to feel a part of the 19th/early 20th century wonderland in which Alice Liddell lived. Deborah Frano, our designer, and I worked 18 hours a day for several months to present each spread as if it were a multi media frame in a movie, i.e. rich storytelling combined with stunning graphics along with lots of little surprises you might miss on the first viewing. Nancy Rosin’s Victoriana collection really helped us to make things look more authentic and ultimately realize our grand vision for the project.
What was your favorite part of researching and collecting the photographs and art work surrounding Alice Liddell and her life?
Cathy M. Rubin: Without a doubt the favorite part of this project was meeting all the incredible people -- fans of Alice from around the world that we worked with on our book. We got the sense that they were trusting us to do a great job with the materials they let us use. They wanted Alice’s story told and they were so generous with their time and their perspectives because they were so excited to be a part of The Real Alice In Wonderland.
What is the one lesson from Alice's life that inspired you most?
Cathy M. Rubin: I believe the many lessons we learn from Alice’s life story make her an excellent role model for young women of today. The major lesson from Alice’s life that inspired us most……..Life’s adventures will throw you plenty of curve balls. There is always a way to get out of the rabbit hole but first you must have the courage and conviction to believe you will prevail. Once you believe in yourself you’ll find a way to create wonderland on your own terms.
What is next for Cathy M. Rubin?
Cathy M. Rubin: I have another famous relative, George Ernest Morrison (aka Morrison of Peking and Chinese Morrison). I am researching material on his life currently with a view to producing a documentary.
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My book review of The Real Alice in Wonderland: A Role Model for the Ages by Cathy M. Rubin and Gabriella Rubin.
Cathy M. Rubin and Gabriella Rose Rubin are the co-authors of The Real Alice in Wonderland: A Role Model for the Ages.
C.M. Rubin was born in South America, and as a child, lived in many cities throughout the United States, Europe, Africa and the Middle East. She has more than two decades experience in development, marketing, and art direction for a diverse range of media businesses. She is the author of two best-selling, award winning books for children, Eleanor, Ellatony, Ellencake and Me, and its sequel, Ellie The Perfect Dress For Me. She is currently working on a third book in the Ellie series.
Gabriella Rubin is a student at the Horace Mann School in New York. Aside from reading and writing, her passion is music composition. The Real Alice in Wonderland is the first of what she hopes will be many collaborations with her Mom.
Cathy M. Rubin: The Real Alice In Wonderland - Author interview
The Real Alice in Wonderland by Cathy M. Rubin & Gabriella Rubin - Book review
The Real Alice in Wonderland
A Role Model for the Ages
By: Cathy M. Rubin, Gabriella Rose Rubin
Published: March 2010
Format: Hardcover, 144pp
ISBN-13: 9781449081317
ISBN-10: 1449081312
Publisher: AuthorHouse
"Most of all we connected with Alice - Alice who did not seek fame, but when the world thrust it upon her, did her duty and triumphed", write co-authors Cathy M. Rubin and Gabriella Rubin, in their gorgeous, lavishly illustrated tribute to Alice Liddell, The Real Alice in Wonderland: A Role Model for the Ages. Creating much more than a coffee table book, the authors explore the real life and Victorian world in which their relative Alice Liddell lived her extraordinary life.
Cathy M. Rubin and Gabriella Rubin recognize that Alice Liddell's life was transformed by her family's association with author Charles Dodgson, better known to the world as Lewis Carroll. Through his two literary masterpieces, Alice in Wonderland and Through the Looking Glass, Lewis Carroll presented the topsy-turvy, and brilliant world encountered by Alice as she explored the inner world of Wonderland. What many people don't know, but the authors lovingly make clear, is that Alice was indeed a real girl, and that many of the events in the Wonderland books were drawn from the life and world of Alice Liddell. Cathy M. Rubin and Gabriella Rubin present the life and times of Alice, and in their view, Lewis Carroll couldn't have selected a better role model.
Cathy Rubin and Gabriella Rubin (both in photo left) understand that while Alice Liddell was very much a woman of her time, she also transcended her era and time in more ways than through literature. For the authors, Alice Liddell was a true role model for her time, for our time, and for future generations. Alice was a celebrity who maintained her best qualities, and utilized her influence to help further the rights of women, and of all people. Alice was a product of the Victorian upper classes, and had relationships with the elites and even with members of the royal family. Because of her connections, and her growing influence, she was able to work toward breaking down barriers for women in an era when such progressive societal advances were very difficult to achieve.
For me, the power of the book is how Cathy M. Rubin and Gabriella Rubin bring the real Alice to life. For the authors, this beautiful book, packed with photographs and drawings of Alice Liddell and her world wide influence, was obviously a labor of love. The photographs were selected with care, and their placement throughout the book, enhances the narrative and brings Alice Liddell to life for our time. While the book is a coffee table edition, the text within the book is more than sufficient to provide background and context for the many illustrations. The authors avoid the photograph and illustration book problem of too little context for the visual aids, through well worded, concise paragraphs and with carefully chosen literary selections.
I highly recommend the beautiful book The Real Alice in Wonderland: A Role Model for the Ages by Cathy M. Rubin and Gabriella Rubin, to anyone seeking a delightful visual introduction to the real girl and woman who was Alice Liddell. Much more than merely a character in some of the best loved books of all time, Alice was an important and influential person in her own right. The book displays Alice's loves, despair, courage and duty for all to see, in all her marvelous glory.
Read the landmark book The Real Alice in Wonderland: A Role Model for the Ages by Cathy M. Rubin and Gabriella Rubin, and discover for yourself the life and times of one of history's most extraordinary women. Alice Liddell was indeed a remarkable woman, and a wonderful choice as a role model for this or any age.
Nancy Trejos: Hot (broke) Messes - Author interview
Washington Post personal finance and travel columnist Nancy Trejos, was kind enough to take the time to answer a few questions about her honest and self revealing book about personal finances Hot (broke) Messes: How to Have Your Latte and Drink It Too.
The author describes candidly her descent into debt, and how she created and executed a plan to become debt free, without living a life lacking completely in pleasures and treats. She also shares some handy tips for living and shopping on budget, as well as saving for major purchases and for retirement.
Thanks to Nancy Trejos for her interesting and informative responses. They are greatly appreciated.
What was the background to writing this book Hot (broke) Messes: How to Have Your Latte and Drink It Too?
Nancy Trejos: I became a financial mess early on--in college. But I was able to get by, mostly by making minimum payments on my credit cards. I got into the habit of just sweeping aside my problems, and not actually fixing them. I started working at the Post 11 years ago. I covered all sorts of beats: county government, education, even the war in Iraq briefly. And then I became a financial writer.
I remember an editor asking me to be the personal finance writer and I said "Are you kidding me? I'm a personal finance disaster." But he thought I would come up with some good story ideas, which I did. But the longer I covered personal finance, the more it became impossible to keep living in denial about my own finances.
I was constantly interviewing people on the verge of bankruptcy or unable to pay their mortgages, and I realized I was not all that much different. They would always seem embarrassed talking to me and I would tell them "Hey, I know exactly how you feel." I wanted to write this book because I know there are so many people out there who are in financial trouble. They're not bad people, they're not dumb people, they've just made mistakes. I wanted to show those people that they're not alone.
The book is about your experiences with getting into and out debt. How did you find yourself in such serious financial difficulty?
Nancy Trejos: It started early on. I grew up in Queens, N.Y. My parents were immigrants. My dad is from Colombia. My mother is from Ecuador. My dad worked in a hospital cafeteria. My mom cleaned offices. They were frugal. We never splurged on anything. But we had everything we needed. I left my parents' home when I was 17 and never went back. I went to Georgetown University, where many students came from wealthy families. I started trying to keep up with the Jane and Joe Hoyas, as we called them.
I wanted to dress better and go on Spring Break, and I was able to do so because I got a credit card. Card companies were willing to give cards to any college student. I figured I could charge my lifestyle and get a better-paying job and deal with it later. It became a vicious cycle. I didn't have a strong financial foundation when I struck out on my own. Financial literacy isn't really something that is taught in schools, or even in many households.
Mancy Trejos (photo left)
Why do so many people have problems with money management and debt?
Nancy Trejos: As I said, I think people don't get taught enough about finances. We get taught more about sex than we do about how to balance our checkbooks. But also, I think part of the problem is psychological. Personal finance is called personal for a reason. Many people are emotional spenders. You have a bad day at work and you spend too much on cocktails after work. You break up with someone and you go buy a new wardrobe to make yourself feel better. We have to learn how to make more rational decisions about money.
One of the major problems facing people today is credit card debt. How does it get out of control?
Nancy Trejos: For a long time, when real estate values were soaring, people could mortgage their way out of debt--that is, they could get home equity lines of credit and pay off their credit cards. We went through a period of so much prosperity--the stock market was at a high, real estate values were soaring--and people got caught up in wanting the bigger house and the bigger car. They were able to finance these unrealistic lifestyles because banks were willing to extend credit to just about anyone. Those days are over.
How can credit card debt be repaid without causing other financial problems?
Nancy Trejos: For one thing, don't withdraw money from your 401k or other retirement savings accounts to pay off your credit cards. So many people do that and it hurts them later on in life. There are other ways to get out of credit card debt. Get on a budget. Cut back on things you don't need. Look at all your expenses and eliminate the cable if you don't watch it, or that magazine subscription you don't need, or whatever the case may be. Those are little things but they add up. And pay off the credit card with the highest interest first. People often attack the card with the highest balance but that's not necessarily the one with the highest rate.
Should people consider creating a spending budget and how can they stick to that spending plan when it's formulated?
Nancy Trejos: Of course! Everyone needs a budget. You have to know how you are spending your money. You have to know what your fixed and variable costs are. You have to know what your assets are. And from there, you can come up with a spending plan. It's not easy. You're going to screw up every once in a while. But you'll get better at it.
One of the greatest fears people have when creating a budget is they will never have fun again, and are faced with a lifetime of macaroni and cheese washed down with tap water. Does that have to be the case?
Nancy Trejos: Of course not! You can still have fun. You just have to set your priorities. Give yourself an entertainment budget. And make tradeoffs when you have to. Sometimes that dinner with friends means you'll have to wait for that pair of shoes you really wanted. It's all about prioritizing. Also, there are ways to have fun without dropping a lot of money. I still go out to eat, but more often than not, my friends and I will cook together, and it's so much fun.
People require good clothes to go to work in the modern world. Is it possible to dress well on a tight budget?
Nancy Trejos: Yes, you can find great deals at thrift stores and consignment shops. And conversely, when you have clothes you are done with, you can try selling them, sometimes even at a profit. And there are so many web sites that will help you find deals, like Shopittome.com. I get regular email alerts from them letting me know when items go on sale at my favorite stores.
Buying a car is a major purchase for people. What are some of the biggest mistakes that people make when they go shopping for a car?
Nancy Trejos: They don't do their research. And they give in to the car salesman too easily. That's why it's so important to take someone along with you. You shouldn't be afraid to walk away if a salesman is not willing to budge, especially when it's towards the end of the month and they're under pressure to show results. You are likely to get a call back if you walk away. And if you don't, there are plenty of cars for sale out there.
Is there a difference between good debt and bad debt, and how can a person tell the difference?
Nancy Trejos: I believe so. I don't consider my student loan a bad debt. I got a good education, and a job, out of it. Mortgages are usually considered to be good debt, though that has not been the case for many in recent years. If you are paying an exorbitant amount in interest or fees for your debt, it's not a good debt.
How can a retirement plan be created when there is only so much money to go around?
Nancy Trejos: Many employers will match your 401k contribution, so why not accept that? It's free money. I know it's hard to think about the future, but you must. You don't want to end up destitute in your retirement, or having to work many more years than you want to.
What is next for Nancy Trejos?
Nancy Trejos: I'm a work in progress. I'm doing much better financially, but there are times when I am tempted to buy something I shouldn't buy. I just have to keep reminding myself that being in debt is no fun. It kept me up many nights. I don't want to go back there.
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My book review of Hot (broke) Messes: How to Have Your Latte and Drink It Too by Nancy Trejos.
Hot (broke) Messes by Nancy Trejos - Book review
Hot (broke) Messes
How to Have Your Latte and Drink It Too
By: Nancy Trejos
Published: May 20, 2010
Format: Trade Paperback, 320 pages
ISBN: 9780446555425
Publisher: Business Plus/Hachette
"We all have relationships with money, good or bad. And those relationships start when we are young, living in our parents' homes", writes Washington Post personal finance columnist Nancy Trejos, in her honest and self revealing book about personal finances Hot (broke) Messes: How to Have Your Latte and Drink It Too. The author describes candidly her descent into debt, and how she created and executed a plan to become debt free, without living a life lacking completely in pleasures and treats.
Nancy Trejos, as an adviser on personal finance, seems an unusual person to lose track of her money and plunge deeply into debt. On the other hand, the scenario of a young person living in a major city, losing control of her finances gives the author a powerful perspective as an advice columnist. As Nancy Trejos describes in the book, anyone can find themselves in debt over their heads at any time. She fell into the debt trap herself, and as a result is able to share her own story, giving her advice more immediacy. After all, she understands how easy it is to get into debt, and how difficult it is to relieve oneself of that financial burden. Because of her empathy with others, the author is able to delve more deeply into her own monetary dilemma, and offer her experience to others.
Mancy Trejos (photo left) starts with the concept that people have a relationship with their money that can be very dysfunctional in nature. For the author, how people interact with money is learned at home, with many lessons not being learned, or the wrong ones absorbed. For Nancy Trejos, keeping up with others was part of her money problem. Her family background didn't provide the information for buying what is essential and ignoring the rest. As a result, during her college years and her early employment years, found her spending money in the same way as her more financially secure friends and colleagues. Nancy found herself deeply in debt and facing painful spending decisions, often forced by bill collectors. In the end, Nancy developed a solid debt reduction and wealth building plan that she shares with her readers.
For me, the power of the book is the complete honesty with which Nancy Trejos describes her accumulation of debt, its effect on her life, and her plan to become debt free while saving for major purchases and her retirement. Instead of preaching complete austerity and a spartan bread and water existence, Nancy presents a spending budget that reduces debt, creates savings, and allows for certain luxury spending too. The book is a great financial primer for twenty something people, as the author not only writes authentically from experience, but understands that her readership will want the opportunity to splurge on something special from time to time. The author's spending advice, which includes important chapters on buying great clothing on the cheap and buying a car the right way, creates ways to eat out with friends and for buying a special pair of shoes. At the same time, Nancy Trejos demystifies IRA's, 401k's and other retirement savings vehicles in a way that will appeal to her target readers.
I highly recommend the very readable and often very funny book Hot (broke) Messes: How to Have Your Latte and Drink It Too by Nancy Trejos, to anyone seeking real world spending and debt reduction advice from someone who has been there, done that, and even put the t-shirt on her credit card. While the book is geared toward members of the Millennial generation, the advice is equally good for anyone of any age. Learning how to have a healthy and happy relationship with your money is important for everyone.
Read the inspirational and informative book Hot (broke) Messes: How to Have Your Latte and Drink It Too by Nancy Trejos, and discover how to get out of debt, save for retirement, and make wiser purchases without living a life of deprivation. The book is a fine primer on building a healthy and lasting relationship with your money, and for avoiding the financial pitfalls that await the unwary.
Click: The Magic of Instant Connections by Ori Brafman & Rom Brafman - Book review
Click
The Magic of Instant Connections
By: Ori Brafman, Rom Brafman
Published: June 8, 2010
Format: Hardcover, 224 pages
ISBN: 978-0-385-52905-1
Publisher: Broadway Business
"In its simplest terms, clicking can be defined as an immediate, deep, and meaningful connection with another person or with the world around us", write authors and brothers Ori Brafman and Rom Brafman, in their fascinating and very insightful book Click: The Magic of Instant Connections. The authors share the key reasons why clicking, as they describe deep personal connections, can take place in a remarkably short period of time.
Rom Brafman and Ori Brafman describe this almost instantaneous connection making as being truly magical. Clicking, according to the authors, goes far beyond the obvious examples of romantic attraction to include lasting friendships and collaborative partnerships. As the authors describe that magical connection, it creates a feeling of being more alive and in touch with all of the person's surroundings. To discover what creates this feeling biologically, and psychologically, the authors explore the science of clicking at all of its various levels and its foundations. Through a series of enlightening chapters that delve into each of the click creation factors, the authors build a compelling case for why people click with others, and why each of these relationships is so deep and long lasting.
Ori Brafman and Rom Brafman (both in photo left) describe a series of factors that accelerate deep click relationships. These factors include:
* Vulnerability
* Proximity
* Resonance
* Similarity
* Safe Place
When these click accelerators are in place, the groundwork is in place for developing a deep and lasting relationship. Most intriguingly, these accelerators can create a click between people in a remarkably short time. The authors also demonstrate how some people are naturals at clicking, due in part to being very adaptable and empathic, able to modulate their emotional expression, and acting as networking hubs.
For me, the power of the book is how Ori Brafman and Rom Brafman present their concept of clicking through a combination of theory and real world examples. Each chapter provides another piece of the connection puzzle, in a manner that is both entertaining and informative for the reader. The authors use leading edge studies in psychology and sociology to augment their own personal experiences and those of the various people profiled in each chapter. Through the accumulation of the various click accelerators, Rom Brafman and Ori Brafman build their case that deep and lasting connections are very often dependent on random events, as well as through personality traits. The end result is a convincing argument about the nature of clicking with other people.
I highly recommend the cutting edge book Click: The Magic of Instant Connections by Ori Brafman and Rom Brafman, to anyone seeking a deeper understanding of why we connect with some people and not with others, and the various factors that lead to those relationships. This entertaining book is an enlightening guide to some of the newest ideas in the formation of interpersonal connection, including how some people are more effective in clicking than others.
Read the delightful book Click: The Magic of Instant Connections by Rom Brafman and Ori Brafman, and discover for yourself how magical clicking with another person can be for both people. The magic of being in what the authors call being in the zone, makes for fascinating and eye opening reading.
